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The Enneagram for Teens

The Enneagram for Teens.

The Enneagram for Teens

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The Enneagram

Teenagers. Stop. Read.

First off, no, the Enneagram is not super confusing. Yes, I realize the name of it is quite strange. But, “ennea” means nine in Greek and “gram” means drawing. Simply stated, the Enneagram is a drawing with nine points. However, it is much more than that. It provides you with tools to examine and realize that your strengths are different from your best friends and your other family members. THAT IS A RELIEF! A GOOD THING! A GREAT THING!

 Adolescence (noun)

1. the transition period between childhood and adulthood.
2. confusion.

Many people my age, 17, struggle with who they really are. This is directly correlational with Erikson’s Psychosocial Stage of Development, Identity vs. Role Confusion ranging from ages 12 to 20 years. A few examples of this involve the life of Allyson Rae, me! I’ve been in plays, choirs, sports teams, volunteer clubs, and much more randomness. Don’t…

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Who is the Real Me?

My sister, mother, me, my father, c. 1952.

Have you ever wondered about the difference between who you are and who you’re pretending to be? I’m searching my earliest memories, when my environment had the least impact on me, to help me find out.

 

• My love of music goes back forever. I had to have been born with it. This points to preferring the feeling side of life—the arts, beauty, people, psychology, etc. There’s not much argument against the MBTI^TM preferences (introversion and extraversion, feeling and thinking, for example) being inborn; I believe I’ve also been individualistic, focused on possibilities, and empathic from the beginning.

 

• When my older sister and my mother screamed at each other, did I freak out and cringe behind the closed door because I naturally disliked conflict? Or did I dislike conflict because their screaming traumatized me? I think I have the anti-conflict gene, if there is such a thing, which Enneagram 9-Peace Seekers and 5-Observers (my type) share. I thrive on peace and dislike drama in my life.

 

• Football players and wrestlers like rough contact, even getting hurt, and don’t usually mind trading insults. This is not the real me for sure! I’m as far as one can get from typical players of contact sports, often 8-Asserters in the Enneagram.

 

• Are you too lazy to spend 55 minutes beautifying yourself every day, as the average woman does? My mother, a 2-Helper, wasn’t. She put on lipstick, powder, rouge, and eye makeup every day, finishing by brushing mascara on her two or three white hairs as a quick cover up. She never allowed me to touch her shiny auburn hair. When I see apes bond by running their fingers through each other’s hair, looking for dirt and parasites, the feeling of disappointment comes back. My mother’s interest in her appearance influenced my attitude. I’m not totally lacking in vanity, but I don’t spend much time on it.

 

• Whenever my mother and I passed through the huge main doors of ZCMI, the big department store in Salt Lake City, she would beeline it to the nearest set of mirrors. We could not talk until she was satisfied with her lipstick, powder, and the angle of her hat. Every so often she’d spot another mirror and recheck herself. Would my mother be as interested in mirrors if she happened to be ugly instead of pretty? Wondering this led me to thinking it would be fairer if humans didn’t have bodies. I wished we could be spirits and relate to one another purely from our inner selves, a wish I almost forgot about when puberty set in.

 

• My father, a 5-Observer and a scientist, was a role model to me for thinking logically—and he did not suffer fools gladly. I’m thankful I picked up his respect for the intellect, but maybe I tricked myself into thinking I could also be strong and smart like him if I were more critical of others. Being like him would compensate for feeling weak. Now, however, I am more interested in being kind than in one-upping anyone. Being true to my real self by being empathic beats having a false sense of strength.

 

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The Enneagram and Lord of the Rings, Part III: Types 6 and 2. By guest blogger, Kelly Gomez.

Sam

You may recall the Frodo has characteristics of the type 6 Enneagram personality, the Questioner. Frodo makes his way to Mordor, where he can destroy the One Ring, which Sauron would like to reclaim. His friend, Sam, travels with him and is a type 2. They make a great team and Sam supports Frodo through his encouraging words.

 

Sometimes a type 6 can also be pessimistic, but also concerned about the safety of others. The discussion that Frodo has with his friend, Sam, a 2-Helper, demonstrates a type 6’s need for security and support.

 

“Frodo: Mordor… I hope the others find a safer road.

 

Sam: Strider’ll look after them.

 

Frodo: I don’t suppose we’ll ever see them again.

 

Sam: We may yet, Mr. Frodo. We may.

 

Frodo: Sam… I’m glad you’re with me.” 

 

I couldn’t help thinking about how happy Frodo must feel to have his friend Sam to be there when he enters the gates of Mordor. Mordor is the place Frodo needs to go before he reaches the top of Mount Doom (in order to have the ring destroyed in fiery lava). Sam is the perfect person to accompany Frodo on his journey because he is on his side every step of the way.

 

Type 2’s bring the sunshine to type 6’s. Their motivation comes from a personal desire to feel loved and valued by the people around them. A type 2 may believe that if he takes care of others, everyone will be okay, and that is what makes him feel happy. Type 2’s tend to be optimistic and try to see the good in all things. In this quote Sam has recognized why venturing out into the world is important:

 

Sam: It’s like in the great stories Mr. Frodo, the ones that really mattered. Full of darkness and danger they were, and sometimes you didn’t want to know the end because how could the end be happy? How could the world go back to the way it was when so much bad had happened? But in the end it’s only a passing thing this shadow, even darkness must pass. A new day will come, and when the sun shines it’ll shine out the clearer. Those were the stories that stayed with you, that meant something even if you were too small to understand why. But I think Mr. Frodo, I do understand, I know now folk in those stories had lots of chances of turning back, only they didn’t. They kept going because they were holding on to something.

 

Frodo: What are we holding onto, Sam?

 

Sam: That there’s some good in the world, Mr. Frodo, and it’s worth fighting for.

 

Ultimately, 6’s doubt or question their decisions so they need encouragement and reminders of why what they are doing is important.

 

I thought the song “May It Be” (originally written by Enya) was a perfect compilation of both type 2 and 6. I liked the version by Celtic Woman, although the film, Lord of the Rings, uses Enya’s version. “May it Be” can be found here. It displays movie clips from Lord of the Rings: Return of the King (4^th book), as well as Celtic Woman’s version of the song.  [[The movie clips from this link portray a love story intertwined with one of the travelers on Frodo’s journey, but is different from my interpretation of the song in the next paragraph.]]

 

The lyrics to this song remind me of Frodo as he begins his journey: “You walk a lonely road, oh how far you are from home.” And the lyrics in the second verse and refrain remind me of Sam’s comforting words to Frodo: “When the night is overcome, you may rise to find the sun; Mornie Utulie (darkness has come); Believe and you will find your way.”

 

The lyrics, “May it be your journey on, to light a new day” bring life to the character Sam as a type 2. Type 2’s bring light to every new day with their warm personality and eagerness to make things seem brighter. Sam’s purpose on this journey with Frodo is to bring light to every darkness they encounter.

 

The soothing sound of the strings begin to quiet themselves at 2:26 and gradually rise in intensity until 2:36. Beginning slowly and cautiously, as a type 6 is concerned for safety, they gain courage as the intensity builds and become daring like a counter-phobic 6. The music rises and falls from there, like the similar anxiety a 6 may have with making up his mind. However the lyrics repeat again, “a promise lives within you now” and the music calms again, as if Frodo’s personal journey now has a purpose and direction.  

 

If you would like more information on the Lord of the Rings, you can check out the link below. This is a very entertaining plot synopsis of the triology:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gzti9LP7gN8

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Kelly Gomez is a student at the University of California, Berkeley, majoring in English. She was an extern for Elizabeth for two weeks during winter break, 2014.

 

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